A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.
Have you ever shared something with someone in confidence only to find out that your confidence was broken? Often times, particularly when we are in stressful situations, we feel the need to share our secrets with someone. However, many times we end up hurt, not just by the situation that we are facing, but also by the fact that the information has been told to others. This can lead to embarrassment, shame and even condemnation.
In our scripture today, Solomon shares with us what many of us already know. In the New Living Bible Translation, this scripture reads; “A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.” We know that a gossip with tell our secrets. If we know this, then why do we continue to fall prey to it? Better yet, why are we sometimes on the other end of this equation, sharing secrets that have been revealed to us in confidence?
We must use wisdom in our conversations. Without wisdom, our conversations can hurt people and we can be hurt by them. We must be careful who we share our secrets with. You don’t have to have a Master’s degree in Discernment to know that it someone shares other people’s secrets with you; there is a good chance that they will share your secrets with others. The old saying is true. A dog that will bring a bone (gossip) will take a bone (gossip).
We must also make sure that we are careful in our conversations so that we are not spreading gossip. It can be very tempting to share something that someone told you. However, put yourself in that person’s place. You do not want people telling your secrets. Be a trustworthy friend.
However, if our secrets are revealed, we really have no one to blame but ourselves. Many times, people will share our secrets because it sounds like a cry for help. If that is the case, then you cannot fault someone that shared it. There is only one way to be 100% sure that your secret is kept. You must keep it.
Lord, help me to learn when to talk and when to be quiet. Show me how to be a faithful, trustworthy friend. I thank you Lord that I can come to you with my inner most secrets and not worry about them being shared. You know everything about me so nothing I can say to you will surprise you. Thank you for your wisdom. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.